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Stepping Back In Time: #MessyBun4Eva
March 15, 2016, 6:40 pm
Filed under: babies, general, ottawa, Parenting, shopping, The big picture
The kids are away for the week (I can hardly breathe, but let’s not go there), so obviously today I distracted my heartsick self by going back into my beloved former Centretown life – a yoga class followed by a quick trip to Hartman’s (apparently it’s now called Massine’s?) to grab sushi for dinner.
I had never, ever before noticed the night and day-level difference of the clientele at my old grocery store versus my new one. It was like seeing myself 10 years ago. It was like being able to see the future of my fellow customers in a way that they would never believe me if I tried to tell them as they casually perused which of the fancy cheeses to buy.
Instead of diaper bags, they carry yoga mats or designer purses.
Instead of a best-intentioned-but-barely-pulled-off messy bun, women wear make-up, their hair… BLOW DRIED. Seriously y’all, they look amazing.
Instead of seeing bags under eyes that are the result of many nights (weeks, months, years) of no sleep, eyes look fresh, rested, people’s steps almost bouncing. Like, they don’t even know what to do with their energy.
Instead of dressy fake-lululemons that were bought at the very grocery store where we now shop and are used rarely, if ever, for actual exercise, people are wearing non-stretchy clothing, fitted and formed to their energetic bodies. So glamorous! Are they all models?!
Instead of, despite the clear exhaustion, the look of relief of having the peacefulness of Alone Time to cruise the grocery store aisles uninterrupted in silence, couples stare and giggle lovingly at each other as they experience their first grocery shopping together relationship milestone. I blatantly stared at those ones.
Instead of toddlers being fed a different thing directly off the shelf in every aisle, spilling things here and there, teetering on the cusp of tantrums, adults have civilized conversations about different ways to get curry into their diet with the taste test providers. Not a child to be seen anywhere.
Despite knowing how much our world has changed, and goddess knows, how much we were desperate for it to change and are so thankful that we have what we do now, what a startlingly visual reminder of where and what I used to be. And a reminder to appreciate and accept the extent to which we’re all so tired instead of wondering why and giving ourselves grief for not trying harder to be like our 25 year old selves.
Mind you, I’m almost inspired to try to dig out my blow dryer. Almost. #messybun4eva

Unexpected Similarities
November 12, 2014, 7:45 am
Filed under: babies, family, ottawa, Parenting, Restaurants, The big picture | Tags: , , , , , ,

Tb and I spent the day with (Great, to her) Nanny yesterday. Tb is now three, (Great) Nanny is now ninety. Woah on both fronts.

It’s always a far more pleasant experience to visit the Lord Lansdowne with only one twin, particularly the one who feels she’s an adult rather than a monkey seemingly on speed. (Guess which one is more fun at the park or out for a hike?) So, we were able to spend awhile together today, just the three of us.

I teared up watching them chat at their Kettleman’s table while I ordered our bagel delights. I love that I can leave them alone together while I run off to get something (read: go to the bathroom). We all excitedly watched the jets fly over the building after they passed over the Cenotaph and my grandmother talked about the war years.

As the morning, and then the afternoon, wore on, certain similarities between my companions could no longer escape my awareness.

  • Speed of getting from point A to B (spoiler alert: the speed is that which requires me to re-assess my own natural pace and allows me to take some (a lot of) time to re-assess whether I really need to always move as fast as I do – I decline to note the answer to that reflection)
  • Interest in abiding by the unwritten (probably written, let’s be honest) rules around Moments of SILENCE (As in, no interest. At all.)
  • Neither require my help, for anything. Apparently.
  • Neither are particularly interested in small talk, which works well for me as then I get to small talk for three!
  • Speed of eating one bagel, or 4/5 of a bagel (pic below is approximately 45 minutes since we’d arrived)Kettleman's
  • Both get very excited about new walkers, as discovered after the original broke while at lunch and required being replaced in a hurry. This is J “surprising” Nanny with her new walker, which she only gave up upon securing the old (broken) one, now in our trunk)

Nanny's New Walker

 What a lovely (and ridiculous) day.

What took me so long?
January 19, 2014, 7:55 pm
Filed under: a & e, ottawa, The big picture

I can be stubborn. Not all the time, but I’m definitely guilty of hanging on to opinions, stories and perspectives for way longer than I genuinely believed them, or needed to.

Take, for instance, my opinion of Ottawa. I moved here at 19 and proceeded to spend over a decade hating it. Being from Montreal-ish (ahem), how could one come to love such a city, devoid of life, energy and creativity?

Things eventually started to change and I’ve come to really adore this big village. I love its size, the absence of traffic, the absence of pretension. And I love its stoic character and its friendly, humble traits – ones like no other. Others are more qualified to talk about the art and restaurant scene, so I’ll leave them to it. Ultimately, we love our life and friends here. It is so easy to have a good life here (even with the weather!), and we so appreciate that.

Driving to yoga this cold Sunday morning, I took the scenic route along the Canal. It wasn’t yet 9 a.m. The best word I can think of to describe the scene is “bustling.” As always, there were the runners along the lovely paths, balancing the need to protect from the cold while managing their sweat, determined to keep their training (for May?) on track. The Canal itself, meanwhile, was hosting hundreds of skaters. People flying down solo, couples holding hands (including an elderly couple that melted my heart), groups of friends, people all bundled up and clearly teaching themselves to skate, others doing twirls and spins.

Again, it wasn’t even 9 a.m.

That’s when I thought to myself: Wow, LB… what took you so long to realize that this city was entirely worthy of your love?

Lisa Loeb, Guard Cat
July 29, 2013, 8:17 am
Filed under: babies, Cat Love, family, ottawa, Willy

Anyone who has spent some time near our home when the weather is even bearable, let alone gorgeous, will know about our cat, Lisa Loeb.

She is the cat lying in the middle of the road, completely sprawled out, getting up only occasionally to either scare a dog or, well, viciously murder a small bunny, squirrel or bird. (The last bit is usually without an audience. Usually.)

I’ve begun to see more clearly what she’s doing and am more and more certain that her prime objective is to protect *her* kids.

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An amateur’s perspective on Ottawa Comic-Con
May 12, 2013, 1:27 pm
Filed under: babies, events, ottawa, recommendations | Tags: ,

I like to support the growing coolness (my definition, to be sure) of Ottawa. So, what better way to spend this cold, windy Sunday than check out Ottawa Comic-Con?

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Yoga’s not for me.
April 7, 2013, 9:03 am
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This was the response I gave to my first invitation to a Yoga class. “It’s not for me,” I said. “I’m too hyper. I like running around, and if possible, yelling. Also, I can’t even touch my toes.” Continue reading

Farewell to Hush-A-Bye
November 21, 2012, 2:34 pm
Filed under: a & e, babies, ottawa, recommendations

When the Twinkies were still fresh and new, my dear friend KL enthusiastically encouraged me to sign up for a sing-song group called Hush-a-Bye, run by Alice Davidson in Ottawa. At that time, I was in no place to argue, or think, so I just did. And I’m so thankful for it. Continue reading