ms. fresh fish

Feminist Parenting: Fresh Fish Style
January 2, 2014, 1:41 pm
Filed under: babies, family, Feminism, Housewife Chronicles, Humanism, Parenting, The big picture

As I noted in my post about my reaction to a small bit of the GoldieBlox ad, I was inspired to write more about how I’ve found my parenting groove (at least so far) in terms of reconciling my feminism with my fairly stereotypical fire truck-loving son and doll-loving daughter. My reaction to these developments has been such an interesting experience for me to observe. Of importance is the fact that I’m the only person in my immediate and extended family that self-identifies as a feminist… or as anything really. They’re all anti-labels. I respect that and give them the liberty to parent/grandparent/aunt/uncle in a way that is true to them. I am quite certain that my kids’ exposure to people of different thoughts and approaches is really good for them and they will see that, at our bases, our values are very similar. But, I am a feminist and a humanist (not mutually exclusive, of course). I believe that men and women are equal but that we live in a culture that does not value women as much as men. So, how does a feminist deal with her daughter’s insistence on playing with dolls, to the exclusion of almost everything else? How does this feminist-humanist work on raising two future feminist-humanists (if not in labels, then in values)? Well, here’s how I do it in a way that is intuitive (read: easy) for me: Continue reading


Twinkies, v. 1.5
March 15, 2013, 12:14 pm
Filed under: babies, events, Housewife Chronicles

As in, 1.5 years old. As in, they’ve been out of my womb for 18 months. I know I’m supposed to say that it feels like yesterday that they were brand new, but I’d be lying. It feels like it’s been, about, I don’t know, say… a year and a half.

This is not to say that we’re not having fun. Oh, we are. I almost peed my pants laughing twice this week. These children are my world, make no mistake (as if you could based on my tweets and FB updates).

They’re both continuing on similar trajectories as they were at the one year point, with a few tweaks: Continue reading

Housewife Chronicles: Window Washing (too boring to even read)
November 19, 2012, 10:35 pm
Filed under: Housewife Chronicles

Ugh. I’m already bored and I’m the one writing it.

You still there? You need a better hobby. But, until then, here you go. Continue reading

Housewife Chronicles: Meal Planning. Sh*t.
November 5, 2012, 2:42 pm
Filed under: babies, family, Housewife Chronicles

For context, I feel it’s important to explain to people my experience with meals growing up. I was raised by a very busy, business-owning single mother, who had two kids eight and 10 years before me so had neither the time, nor inclination to do meal time by the time I was, say, eight. You can judge if you want; I don’t (anymore). All this to say, I was given $5 for lunch at the cafeteria every day (which eventually ended up being used for cigarettes… ahhh, cigarettes) and dinner was almost always one of the following three: Poutine (delivery), Club Sandwich (delivery), or Kraft Dinner (which, incidentally, I still have at least twice a year). That said, I was also fortunate to have a lovely network of friends whose parents often set another plate at the table for me. These moms have had more of an impact on me than they will ever realize. (Of note, they never had anything but positive things to say to me about my mom, which was an effort I’ve also come to appreciate.)

Needless to say, these eating and meal habits did not magically transform when going to University, nor when I was living with my boyfriend-turned-fiance-turned-husband working busy jobs. There were forays into the world of cooking from time to time (a weekly Ingredient of the Week Cook-Off when Cousin Brad lived with us, for example), but none of them took. Truth be told, my greatest fear of becoming a parent was the food situation. Not only do I not know how to cook for me, let alone a family, but I’m pretty sure that I really, really hate it.

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Housewife Chronicles: Emergency Preparedness
October 31, 2012, 10:16 am
Filed under: babies, events, Housewife Chronicles, ottawa

I was late on the Hurricane Sandy awareness train, after having been distracted by renovations, visiting in-laws and day-to-day chaos. When I did finally get my head out of the proverbial sand, I found out that Ottawa was in her path. My first thought: Ooooh! Power outage! I love power outages! So fun! And then I remembered that I now have children (they were napping). Sh*t.

The joyful anticipation soon gave way to machinations of an emergency preparedness robot. I had to get on this. I had to think about what we would need, to plan, to prepare. None of these are things I ever enjoy doing.

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Chronicles of a Housewife
October 18, 2012, 9:26 am
Filed under: Housewife Chronicles

Last year, I was a Stay-At-Home-Mom (SAHM, as per Twitter speak). I was on paid leave at (basically) full salary for a year, so I was fortunate enough to be able to, without thinking, continue with the niceties – the gym membership, the frivolous eating out, MOLLY MAID. But, as of a month ago, I’m now a SAHM and Housewife. Continue reading